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Polyamory - Polyamory

Practice or desire for intimate relationships with more than one partner
This is an image of a Polyamory Pride Flag design created by Jim Evans in 1995.

Polyamory (from the Greek πολύ poly , "many" and Latin cupid ("Love") is the practice or desire for intimate relationships with more than one partner, with the informed consent of all partners involved. People who identify as polyamorous may believe in an open relationship with a conscious handling of jealousy and reject the view that sexual and relational exclusivity is necessary for deep, committed, long-term loving relationships. Others prefer to limit their sexual activity to members of the group only, a closed polyamorous relationship usually known as polyfidelity.

Polyamory has become an umbrella term for various forms of non-monogamous, multi-partner or non-exclusive sexual or romantic relationships. Its use reflects the decisions and philosophies of the people involved, but with recurring themes or values ​​such as love, intimacy, honesty, integrity, equality, communication and commitment.

terminology

The word polyamorous first appeared in an article by Morning Glory Zell-Ravenheart, "An Ostrich Lover," which was published in May 1990 in Green Egg Magazine was published as "polyamorous". In May 1992, Jennifer L. Wesp founded the Usenet newsgroup alt.polyamory , and the Oxford English Dictionary cites the suggestion to create this group as the first verified appearance of the word. In 1999, Zell-Ravenheart was asked by the editor of the OED to provide a definition of the term and she gave it for the UK version as "the practice, condition or ability of having more than one sexually loving relationship at the same time". with the full knowledge and consent of all partners involved. " The words Polyamory , Polyamorous and Polyamorist were admitted to the OED in 2006.

Some reference works define "polyamory" as a form of relationship (whether interpersonal or romantic or sexual) in which several people are involved with the consent of all people involved, such as: B. Oxford Living Dictionaries, Cambridge Advanced Learner's Dictionary & Thesaurus, and Dictionary.com. Some criticized the Merriam-Webster definition of polyamory, which defines the term as the "state or practice of having more than one overt romantic relationship at the same time", as the lack of a "critical component": consent.

The word polyamory combines the Greek word for many (poly) and the Latin word for love (cupid).

As a practice

Polyamorous people performing under their banner at Pride in London 2016 with two furries in front of them in June 2016

The consensual non-monogamy that polyamory falls under can take many different forms depending on the needs and preferences of the person (s) involved in a particular relationship or set of relationships. As of 2019, one-fifth of the United States' population has practiced some kind of consensual non-monogamy at some point in their life.

Separate from polyamory as the philosophical basis for relationships are the practical ways in which polyamorous people shape their lives and deal with certain topics, compared to those of a more conventional monogamous arrangement. People with different sexual preferences are part of the community and form relationship networks with the consent and consent of their partners. There are many things that distinguish polyamory from other types of non-monogamous relationships. It is common for swinging and open couples to maintain emotional monogamy while engaging in extra-dyadic sexual relationships. Similarly, in monogamous relationships and other forms of non-monogamy, the line between friend and partner is typically fairly clear. Unlike other forms of non-monogamy, "polyamory is notable for privileging emotional intimacy with others". The benefits of a polyamorous relationship might include: the ability of individuals to discuss issues with multiple partners, potentially mediating and thereby stabilizing a relationship, and reducing the polarization of viewpoints and the emotional support and structure of other committed adults within the family unit . Other benefits include a wider range of experience, skills, resources, perspectives and support for adult marriages, which can be satisfying even after they are no longer sexually vital as romantic needs are met elsewhere. This serves to maintain existing relationships. A final benefit is more emotional, intellectual, and sexual needs, which are met within the framework of an understanding that one person cannot be expected to provide them all. Conversely, polyamory offers liberation from the monogamistic expectation that a person must meet all of an individual's needs (gender, emotional support, primary friendship, intellectual stimulation, companionship, social presentation).

Polyamorous communities exist in countries in Europe, North America, Oceania, South America, Asia, and Africa. The Kinsey Institute for Research into Sex, Gender and Reproduction estimates that there were half a million "openly polyamorous families" in the US as of July 2009. In addition, 15-28% of heterosexual couples and about half of gay and bisexual people have a "non-traditional" arrangement, as in The Guardian reported in August 2013. Polyamorous communities are said to be outwardly feminist, as women were central to the creation of such communities and gender equality is a central tenet. For those who are polyamorous, social distancing as a result of the COVID-19 pandemic created ripples in existing relationships that resulted in some breaking up and others struggling to maintain their connections with one another.

values

Loyalty and loyalty

The picture shows three people in a polyamorous relationship. It was started in May 2016 as part of a research project at the University of Vienna

A large percentage of polyamorists are defined loyalty not as sexual exclusivity, but as loyalty to the promises and agreements made about a relationship. As a relational practice, polyamory maintains a multitude of open relationships or constellations with several partners that can differ in definition and intensity, closeness and commitment. In particular, polyamory can take the form of a triad of three people in an intimate relationship, a polyfamily of more than three people, one person at the heart of a relationship (a "V"), a couple in a two-person relationship representing other relationships for yourself and various other intimate networks of individuals. There are also those who are swingers and are into polyamory or poly dating. A polyfamily is sometimes referred to as "kitchen table polyamory," a type of polyamory in which all members of a particular polycule are comfortable and connected in such a way that it is not uncommon for them to literally gather around the kitchen table. Birthdays or other important times together as a large group. This style places an emphasis on family connections, not all members are necessarily sexually or romantically linked to every other person in the group. Other types of polyamory include parallel polyamory, where members of individual relationships prefer not to meet or know details of their partners' other relationships, and solo polyamory, where the person has or is happy to have multiple intimate (romantic or sexual) relationships Without wanting to live together or "nest" with a partner, without the "relationship escalator", which says that relationships must follow progress, or the "escalator" from dating to exclusivity to engagement, marriage and the desire to have children. For some, polyamory acts as an umbrella term for the diverse approaches of "responsible non-monogamy". A secret sexual relationship in violation of these agreements would be considered a violation of fidelity. Polyamorists support definitions of the Engagements generally to considerations other than sexual exclusivity, e.g. B. "Trust and honesty" or "Growing old together". In an article in Men's Health Explained Zachary Zane, that engaging in a polyamorous relationship means "you will be there for that person," helping them care for and love them.

Communication and negotiation

Because there is no "standard model" for polyamorous relationships and reliance on shared expectations may not be realistic, polyamorists advocate explicit negotiation with all parties to determine the terms of their relationships and often emphasize that this should be an ongoing process of honest communication and respect. Polyamorists usually approach their relationships in a pragmatic way. Many accept that they and their partners sometimes make mistakes and fail to live up to these ideals, and that communication is important in fixing violations. They also argue that polyamory is an answer to challenges in monogamous relationships.

Trust, honesty, dignity and respect

Polyamory was defined as loving more than one person at the same time, with respect, trust and honesty for all partners. Ideally, a partner's partners will be accepted as part of that person's life, not just tolerated. Typically, a relationship that requires deception or a "don't ask, don't tell" policy is considered a less than ideal model. Out additionally described polyamory as "no sexuality" but actually "having several intimate relationships".

Non-possession

Some polyamorists find excessive constraints on other deeper relationships less desirable, as such constraints can be used to replace trust with a framework of ownership and control. It is usually preferred or encouraged that a polyamorist strive to view the other significant other of his partners, often referred to as metamours or OSOs, for the benefit of their partners' lives rather than a threat to their own (see Force ). Hence, jealousy and obsession are generally viewed not so much as something to avoid or structure relationships, but as responses that should be explored, understood, and resolved in each individual with the aim of repression. This is related to one of the types of polyamory that is non-hierarchical, where "no relationship takes precedence over others" and the fact that polyamorists insist on solving problems in their relationships "through open communication, patience, and honesty . ""

Compersion

displacement is an empathic state of happiness and joy experienced when another individual experiences happiness and joy. In the context of polyamorous relationships, it describes positive feelings that an individual experiences when their intimate partner is in a different relationship. Some have called it "the opposite or the downside of jealousy", analogous to the "joy parents experience when their children marry" and a "positive emotional response to a lover's other relationship". The concept of displacement was originally coined by the Kerista community in San Francisco.

difficulties

Michael McClure and Kamala Devi (polyamorists) were captured by EBS DOCUPRIME in November 2016

Polyamory, along with other forms of consensual non-monogamy, is not without its drawbacks. Morin (1999) and Fleckenstein (2014) found that certain conditions are favorable to good experiences with polyamory, but differ from the general population. Strong public promotion of polyamory can have the unintended effect of attracting people for whom it is not well suited. Unequal power dynamics such as financial dependence can also inappropriately cause a person to agree to a polyamorous relationship against their true desires. Even in more dynamic relationships of equal power, the reluctant partner may feel compelled to a proposed non-monogamous agreement, as this implies that if the applicant refuses to pursue other partners anyway, the reluctant one breaks off the relationship or the one who refuses the intolerance be accused.

Polyamorous relationships have practical pitfalls. A common complaint from participants is time management, as more partners mean you have to split your time and attention between them, with less left for each. This has to do with the fact that the complexity of the arrangement can lead to so much effort being put into the relationship that personal, individual needs can be overlooked. The heavy emphasis on communication can inadvertently marginalize less articulate partners. After all, negotiating the sometimes complex rules and limits of these relationships can be emotionally exhausting, as can reconciling situations in which a partner transgresses those limits. Some therapists argue that polyamory is not good for relationships, saying it is a "recipe for hurt, disappointment, jealousy, and separation".

Legal issues and legal recognition

People with polyamory flags in Malmo, Sweden, in August 2017

In 1998, a Tennessee court granted a child guardianship to her grandmother and step-grandfather after the child's mother April Divilbiss and partner came out as polyamorous on MTV. After two years of contesting the decision, Divilbiss finally agreed to give up on their daughter, admitting that she was unable to adequately care for her child and that, instead of her polyamory, that was the grandparents' real motivation was to seek custody.

In 2010, Ann Tweedy, a legal scholar, argued that polyamory could be considered a sexual orientation under applicable US law. That argument was rejected by Christian Keese, who wrote in 2016 that advocating a "model of sexual orientation from polyamory is likely to reduce the complexity and transformative potential of poly-intimacy" while limiting the scope and scope of potential litigation and the ability of Poly hinders activists from forming alliances with other groups and increasing the possibility that polyactivists will have to settle for legal solutions that are "exclusive and reproductive to a culture of privilege".

In 2016, writer Rebecca Ruth Gould urged that non-monogamy, including polyamory, "receive the legal recognition it deserves," saying that polyamory remains a "negative identity".

In 2017, three men became the first family in California to have names of three fathers "on their child's birth certificate." In later years they struggled with legal issues and published a book in 2020 about their experience with the title Three fathers and a baby .

In June 2018, a court in Newfoundland and Labrador recognized three unmarried adults as the legal parents of a child born into the polyamorous family they formed. This was believed to be a first for Canadian law. The three adults included the child's mother and two men; The child's biological father was unknown.

In June 2020, Somerville, Massachusetts City Council approved the recognition of polyamorous domestic partnerships in the city, making it the first American city to do so. This measure was passed to allow people in a polyamorous relationship to have access to their partners' health insurance during the COVID-19 pandemic.

In November 2020, the issue of polyamory came before the Vermont Supreme Court in the form of an argument between two men and a woman in a polyamorous relationship.

In March 2021, Cambridge, Massachusetts City Council approved an ordinance amending the city's laws, stating that "a domestic partnership need not consist of just two partners". The move was supported by the Polyamory Legal Advocacy Coalition, also known as PLAC, made up of the Chosen Family Law Center, Harvard Law School's LGBTQ + Advocacy Clinic, and some members of the American Psychological Association's Consensual Non-Monogamy Committee . This regulation was originally proposed in July 2020. In April 2021, the neighboring city of Arlington, Massachusetts also approved domestic partnerships with more than two people, which are now under scrutiny by the Attorney General's Office.

Effects on Marriage

Most western countries do not recognize polygamous marriages and consider bigamy a crime. Some countries also prohibit people from leading a polygamous lifestyle. This is the case in some states in the United States, where the criminalization of a polygamous lifestyle has emerged as anti-Mormon laws, although rarely enforced. In most US jurisdictions, it is legal to have multiple illegitimate partners, even if they are married to one. At most, it constitutes grounds for divorce if the spouse does not consent or is of the opinion that the interest in another partner has destabilized the marriage. In some countries, such as North Carolina, a spouse can sue a third party for "loss of affection" or "criminal conversation" (adultery) with their spouse, while more than twenty states have laws against adultery, although they will because of the judgment of the Supreme Court in the Lawrence v Texas case rarely enforced.

However, polyamory is on a continuum of family ties, which includes group marriage, and does not refer to bigamy unless a claim to formal legal marriage is made. The Social History of the American Family: An Encyclopedia (2014, edited by Marilyn J. Coleman and Lawrence H. Ganong) noted that under current US federal law, polyamorous relationships are legal in all 50 states, but polygamy is not. On November 23, 2011, the British Columbia Supreme Court ruled that Canada's Anti-Polygamy Act does not apply to non-formalized polyamorous households. For this reason, Polyamory Day is celebrated on November 23rd every year. Nevertheless, people in polyamorous relationships often face legal challenges when it comes to custody, morality clauses, adultery and bigamy laws, housing and their place of residence.

In 2012, legal scholar Deborah Anapol called for existing US laws against bigamy to be revised to allow married persons to enter into additional marriages if they had already given their existing spouses or partners a legal notice using a "dyadic network" model. In 2015, another law scholar, Ronald C. Den Otter, wrote in the Emory Law Journal (in the article "Three Must Not Be a Crowd: The Case for a Constitutional Right to Multiple Marriage") that the United States' constitutional rights of due process and protection fully support the marital rights of polyamorous families.

During a PinkNews Q&A session in May 2015, Redfern Jon Barrett interviewed Natalie Bennett, leader of the Green Party of England and Wales, about her party's stance on polyamorous marriage rights. Bennett replied that her party was "open" to discussions about the idea of ​​a civil partnership or marriage between three people. Bennett's announcement sparked controversy over the subject in the media and led to major international news outlets covering her response. A follow-up article authored by Barrett was published by PinkNews on May 4, 2015, which further explored the subject. In most countries, it is legal for three or more people to have and share a sexual relationship (sometimes this is subject to laws against homosexuality or adultery if two of the three are married). With only minor exceptions, no industrialized countries allow that Marriage of more than two people, and the majority of countries do not provide legal protections (e.g. children's rights) to unmarried partners. Individuals involved in polyamorous relationships are generally considered by law to be no different from individuals who live or "date" together in different circumstances. In 2017, John Alejandro Rodriguez, Victor Hugo Prada and Manuel Jose Bermudez had Colombia's first polyamorous family to have a legally recognized relationship but not a marriage, as in Colombian law marriage is between two people, so they called it a "special one" instead Patrimonial Union ". Some called for domestic partnership laws to be extended to polyamorous couples, saying that marital rights should apply to such couples.

In later years, in the same-sex marriage debate, neither those who opposed nor those who opposed it endorsed polygamy itself, with the agreement that multiparty marriage should remain impossible. In the case of polyamory, which is different from polygyny, there has been little public debate about its existence. This is because some same-sex marriage advocates became suspicious of associating with polyamory because they thought it would "give ammunition to their enemies". When marriage is intended, some countries provide for both religious and civil marriage (sometimes combined). These recognize and formalize the relationship. Few countries outside of Africa or Asia legally recognize marriages with three or more partners. While a relationship of three people formalized in the Netherlands in 2005 was read by some Conservatives as evidence that the Dutch law allowed multiple partners civil unions, the relationship in question was one seedlevingscontract or "partnership agreement", rather than a registered partnership or marriage. The Dutch law on registered partnerships provides that one person can be in a single registered partnership at the same time with another person of the same or opposite sex and that persons entering into a registered partnership may not be married at the same time.

frequency

Preparations for Polyamory Pride at the CSD Parade in Graz, Austria, in June 2017

Research on the prevalence of polyamory is limited. A comprehensive government study of sexual attitudes, behaviors and relationships in Finland in 1992 (18-75 years old, about 50% women and men) found that about 200 out of 2,250 (8.9%) respondents made the statement " agreed or strongly agreed "I could have multiple sexual relationships at the same time." and 8.2% said a "best-fit" relationship type would involve multiple partners at this stage in life. In contrast, around 17% said they had had other partners during a committed relationship when they were asked about other relationships at the same time as a committed relationship (50% no, 17% yes, 33% refused to answer). In addition, dating apps like #Open, Feeld, and OkCupid are polyamorous.

The item What Psychologists Should Know About Polyamory (by Geri Weitzman), based on a paper presented at the 8th Annual Diversity Conference in Albany, New York, in March 1999, states that while openly polyamorous relationships are relatively rare, "there are indications of it." That private are polyamorous "Agreements within relationships are actually quite common. "Citing a 1983 study of 3,574 married couples in their sample, they also find that" 15–28% had an understanding that allowed non-monogamy under certain circumstances, "with the percentages for" couples living together (28%) and lesbian couples (29%) are higher. and gay male couples (65%). "According to Jessica Fern, psychologist and author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy , practice By September 2020, about 4% of Americans, nearly 16 million people, "have a non-monogamous relationship style".

In March 2021, Google Play Store suspended #remove, a polyamorous dating app saying that the app violated Google's rules against “sexual content” and profanity, appealing a decision made by app co-founders, Amanda Wilson and David Epstein. The app has reportedly been used by thousands of users. According to Hannah Szafranski, Social Media Manager at #open, advertising for the app on Instagram and Facebook is also prohibited.

Acceptance by the religions

Land of the Oneida community between 1865 and 1875

The 19th century New York Oneida community (a Christian religious congregation) believed strongly in a system of free love known as complex marriage, in which any member was free to have sex with anyone who consented . In 1993, the community's archives were made available to scientists for the first time. Included in the archives was the diary of Tirzah Miller, Noyes' niece, who wrote extensively about her romantic and sexual relationships with other members of Oneida.

Some Christians are polyamorous, but mainstream Christianity does not accept polyamory. In 2017, the Council on Biblical Masculinity and Femininity, an evangelical Christian organization, published a manifesto on human sexuality known as the Nashville Statement. The declaration was signed by 150 evangelical leaders and contains 14 points of faith. Among other things, it says: "We deny that God designed marriage as a homosexual, polygamous or polyamorous relationship."

Some Jews are polyamorous, but mainstream Judaism does not accept polyamory. In 2010, however, Rabbi Jacob Levin joined the board of his synagogue in California as a polyamorous one without losing his job as a rabbi. In his book A Guide to Jewish Practice: Volume 1 - Everyday Life (2011) wrote Rabbi David Teutsch: "It is not obvious that monogamy is automatically a morally higher form of relationship than polygamy." Honesty, flexibility, egalitarian rules, and trust enable practitioners to "lead an enriched life as a result." In 2013, Sharon Kleinbaum, Chief Rabbi of the Beit Simchat Torah Congregation in New York, said that polyamory is a choice that does not preclude a Jewish observant and socially conscious life. Some polyamorous Jews cite Biblical patriarchs with multiple wives and concubines as evidence that polyamorous relationships can be sacred in Judaism. An email list is dedicated to polyamorous Jews. it's called AhavaRaba which roughly means "great love" in Hebrew and the "great" or "abundant" love of God reflects mentioned in the Ahava Rabbah prayer.

LaVeyan Satanism criticizes Abraham's sexual mores, viewing them as narrow, restrictive, and hypocritical. Satanists are pluralists who accept polyamorists, bisexuals, lesbians, gays, BDSM, transgender, and asexual. Sex is considered a pleasure, but should only be freely entered into with consent. The Eleven Satanic Rules of the Earth give only two instructions regarding sex: "Do not progress sexually unless you receive the mating signal" and "Do not harm young children," although the latter is much broader and is physical and other abuse includes. This has always been an integral part of the CoS policy since its introduction in 1966. Magister Peter H. Gillmore wrote in an essay in support of same-sex marriage that some people try to suggest that their attitude towards sexuality is "anything goes" despite having a principle of "responsibility to those responsible". He also stated that the Church of Satan's philosophy "strictly forbids sexual activity with children as well as with non-human animals".

Unitarian Universalists for Polyamory Awareness, founded in 2001, has continuously trained and advocated a better understanding and greater acceptance of Polyamory within the Unitarian Universalist Association. At the 2014 General Assembly, two UUPA members included the "Family and Relationship Structures" category along with other changes in the UUA's non-discrimination rule. The package of proposed changes was ratified by the GA delegates.

Acceptance by non-religious organizations

In 2018, the Association of Humanist Rabbis issued a “Declaration on Sexual Ethics for the 21st Century”, in part of which it is stated: “We are committed to the freedom and empowerment of all adults to express themselves sexually consensually, be it monogamous or polyamorous . "

In a clinical setting

In 2002 an article dealt with the title Working with polyamorous clients in a clinical setting (by Joy Davidson) with different areas of study. This included the importance of discussing alternatives to monogamy, how therapists can work with those dealing with polyamory, a basic understanding of polyamory, and key issues that therapists need to look out for when working with polyamorous clients.

His conclusions were that "profound changes are taking place in the sexual and relational landscape" (including "dissatisfaction with the limitations of serial monogamy, ie exchanging one partner for another in the hope of a better outcome"); that clinicians must first "recognize the variety of possibilities encompassed by" polyamory "and" examine our culturally based assumption that "only monogamy is acceptable" "and how that tendency affects therapy practice; the need for self-education about polyamory, a basic understanding of the "rewards of the poly-lifestyle" and the common social and relational challenges involved and the "dark side" of polyamory, the potential for compulsion, strong emotions in opposition and jealousy. The paper also states that the configurations a therapist "would most likely see in practice" are individuals involved in primary plus arrangements, monogamous couples looking to explore non-monogamy for the first time, and "poly -Singles ".

In 2002, the rights of polyamorous people were accepted into the mission of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, an American organization for sexually positive advocacy and education. In September 2009 they published a manual for psychotherapists dealing with polyamorous clients entitled What Psychotherapists Should Know About Polyamory (written by Geri Weitzman and others).

The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom maintains the Kink And Poly Aware Professionals Directory, which consists of an Internet directory of psychotherapists, medical professionals, and other professionals who have volunteered to be contacted by those involved in Polyamory (and / or BDSM, etc.) .) involved. .

The Polyamory-Friendly Professionals Directory is a directory on the Internet “of professionals who cater to the special needs of polyamorous customers”. It includes psychologists, therapists, medical professionals, and other professionals.

Media representation

Cosplay from Starfire at FanimeCon 2015

Starfire, also known as Princess Koriand'r, is a fictional superhero who appears in DC Comics books. He made his debut in a preview story set in DC Comics Presents # 26 (October 1980) was inserted and created by Marv Wolfman and George Pérez. She has been shown to be a polyamorous figure. She grew up in the world of Tamaran, where it was acceptable to have an open marriage, and she remained, as some critics argued, sexually positive and free-thinking, open to polygamous relationships, open sex, and pansexual "free" love "with anyone, which often leads to conflict with the more reserved culture and customs on earth. For Starfire, polyamory was a personal and cultural preference. 1989 included the anime series Ranma ½ a polyamorous character, Tatewaki, who is in love with both Akane and the "Pigtail Girl" (Ranma's feminine form) and suggests dating both of them, but they don't reciprocate. Then, in 2002, that showed Futurama Episode "A Taste of Freedom" Old Man Waterfall who is Zoidberg's defender until killed by a giant crab warship and has seven wives and one husband. While Waterfalls case is unsuccessful for Zoidberg, the Supreme Court finds polygamy legal, although it leads to ridicule among viewers.

The 21st century brought various new forms of representation of polyamory. In 2007, Daniel Help showed Justice in his book Dreyd Tarsa, a priestess, warrior and bisexual woman, as part of a polyamorous love triad. The next year the TV Futurama Movie The Beast with a Billion Backs two polyamorous characters: Colleen O'Hallahan and Yivo. Colleen had five friends: Fry, Chu, Ndulu, Schlomo, and Bolt Rolands, while Yivo is an alien alien of no gender who dates and then marries everyone in the universe at the same time. Fry and Colleen eventually split up. After that, Yivo remains in a relationship with Colleen. In 2009, Graham Nicholls founded www.polyamory.org.uk, the first UK website about polyamory and the mother of Pina in Maria Pallotta-Chiarolli's novel Love You Two. He Turned out to be polyamorous and bisexual, and took Pina on a journey to explore the "complex spectrum of sex and love" in humanity. The series began in 2010 Lost Girl . This included Bo Dennis, a bisexual succubus who must feed on the life force of male and female fairies and humans through oral ingestion or the energy generated by sex. For the first two seasons, she was romantically linked to Dyson (a straight shapeshifter) and Lauren (a lesbian person). Bo later attempted a monogamous relationship with Lauren, with Bo and Lauren falling in love through ups and downs and later accepting each other as a couple at the end of the series.

Increased representation in the 2010s

Polyamorous characters appeared in various media in the 2010s. In the TV show Caprica off 2010 several main characters are portrayed in a polyfidelity style marriage made up of several men and women, each member being socially and legally equal. From 2012 to 2013 the American reality TV series on the American pay TV network Showtime, Polyamory: Married & Dating , was broadcast. It followed polyamorous families as they overcame the challenges of polyamory. The webcomic started around the same time Kimchi Cuddles who portrayed polyamorous people like other characters, "just with more partners to steal their blankets". In the years that followed, there was a polyamorous captain in Jacqueline Koyanagi's novel Ascension and three characters (Reese, David, and Amber) in a relationship in Malinda Los's novel Inheritance . Started in 2011 American Horror Story: Hotel with Countess Elizabeth Johnson, played by Lady Gaga, and began a relationship with famous film actor Rudolph Valentino and his wife Natacha Rambova, as seen in episode seven. The following year would be the YouTube show The gay and wondrous life of Caleb Gallo show a couple working on their decision to convert from monogamy to polyamory, such as Brian Jordan Alvarez, who considers himself polyamorous.

From 2015 to 2017 it was in the webcomic Always human by Ari North showed that Sunati's parents (Nisa and Prav) have a polyamorous relationship with a man named Vish, whom Nisa calls "our friend". In another webcomic, Unknown Lands , which began in 2015, Vard is shown to be polyamorous and most of the cast have strange sexual identities. The webcomic itself is environmental, feminist, and LGBTQ + themed. A few years later the film focuses Professor Marston and the Wonder Women 2017 on a polyamorous relationship between a professor, his wife and their student Olive, who share a "workplace, a bed, a home and finally a family". In addition, fiction writer Cassandra Clare stated that Mark Blackthorn was in the book series The Dark Artifices "definitely open to a polyamorous relationship" but would not cheat or lie while realizing that any other such relationship between other characters would not be possible. In addition, the writer K. Ancrum confirmed that polyamorous characters in two of her books ( The Wicker King and The Weight of the Stars ) were included, but did not identify any specific characters. At the same time, Em, the protagonist's best friend in two books by Leigh Matthews ( Don't bang the barista and Go deep ), a bisexual woman who is with a man in the first book, but in the second book she "happily" settled in a poly-triad "and wondered how she was going to get married.

On May 29, 2017, in the final season of Steven Universe , Fluorite, a member of the Off Colors, introduced an amalgamation of six different gemstones into one being, the amalgamation being the physical manifestation of a relationship. This character reappeared in various episodes of the series' fifth season ("Lars Head", "Lars the Star", "Your Mother and Mine"), the fifth season finale "Change Your Mind" and one in Steven Universe Future ( "Little Graduation") and in Steven Universe: The Movie , the latter two being considered non-speaking appearances. Show creator Rebecca Sugar confirmed that Fluorite is a portrayal of a polyamorous relationship on the show's Comic Con panel in San Diego. Sugar said on the panel and at another conference that she was inspired after speaking to kids at an LBGTQ + center in Long Beach, California who wanted a polyamorous character on the show. Steven Universe was not alone in this regard. In the fourth season of BoJack Horseman , a mature cartoon series, featured Hollyhock, the sister of the protagonist, who has eight adoptive fathers in a polyamorous gay relationship. That same year had Unicornland Premiered an eight episode web series that focused on Annie's research into polyamory after her divorce.

2018 and beyond

Polyamory was the subject of the Louis Theroux documentary Love Without Limits from 2018 when Theroux travels to Portland, Oregon to meet a number of people involved in polyamorous relationships. Also received in 2018 195 Lewis , a web series about a black lesbian couple exploring their relationship that is newly polyamorous, the Breakthrough Series - Short Form Award from the Gotham Awards. The series premiered in 2017 and ran for five episodes. In the same year the comic became Open Earth Premiered. The comic is set in the future and monogamous relationships are considered obsolete for all young people aboard the space station, all of whom are polyamorous. Author Sarah Mirk said she wanted to write a story where "open relationships can be really positive and wonderful" and that it is realistic to believe that people would "explore multiple relationships." She also said she wanted to write a story in which it was "perfectly normal to be queer and gender specific".

Trigonometry is an eight-part BBC TV drama series that began on March 25, 2020 and features an existing couple who are joined by a third person and form a polyamorous relationship. The BBC said trigonometry is "a love story about three people who are made for each other."

Polyamory-related observations

Metamour Day is celebrated on February 28th each year. It celebrates the relationships people have with their Metamours (other important other partners, often referred to as Metamours or OSOs).

Polyamory Pride Day is celebrated on a day in Pride Month each year.

Polyamory groups sometimes take part in pride parades.

The International Solo Polyamory Day is celebrated on September 24th each year. Solo polyamory is a type of polyamory in which a person has or enjoys having multiple intimate (romantic or sexual) relationships without wanting to live or "nest" with a partner, avoiding the "relationship escalator" that says Relationships must be followed by a further development or "escalator" from dating to exclusivity to engagement, marriage and the desire to have children.

Polyamory Day is celebrated on November 23rd each year. This date was chosen because the British Columbia Supreme Court ruled on November 23, 2011 that Canada's anti-polygamy law does not affect non-formalized polyamorous households.

Polyamory rights organizations

Bridgette Garozzo, Polyamory Action Lobby spokeswoman, in May 2013

The Canadian Polyamory Advocacy Association (CPAA) was founded in 2009. She advocates Canadians who practice polyamory. It promotes the legal, social, governmental and institutional acceptance and support of Polyamory and promotes the interests of the Canadians polyamorous community in general. "

The Polyamory Action Lobby (PAL) was founded in Australia in 2013 to combat cultural misunderstandings about polyamorous people and to fight for their legal rights.

The US-based Polyamory Legal Advocacy Coalition (PLAC) seeks to "advance the civil and human rights of polyamorous individuals, communities and families through advocacy for law, public order and public education."

Unitarian Universalists for Polyamory Awareness