INTPs are usually serious in relationships

protagonist personality

People with the protagonist personality type are most comfortable when they are in a relationship, and few personality types are more eager than they are to form loving bonds with their chosen partners. Protagonists take dates and relationships seriously and choose their partners for the long term, rather than in an informal manner like some types from the group of researcher personalities. There really is no greater joy for protagonists than helping someone who is important to them achieve their goals, and the intertwining of two lives that makes up an engaging relationship is the perfect opportunity to do just that.

I go slowly, but I never go back

Even in the dating phase, people with the protagonist personality type are ready to show their commitment by taking the time and effort to establish themselves as reliable, trustworthy partners.

Their Intuitive (N) trait helps them keep up with the rapidly changing moods common in early relationships, but protagonists still rely on talking about their mutual feelings and checking the pulse of the relationship by asking, how things are and whether there is anything else they can do. While this can help keep conflicts protagonists loathe to a minimum, they also risk being intrusive or insecure - protagonists should keep in mind that sometimes the only wrong thing is to be asked too often what wrong is.

Protagonists don't need much to be happy, they just need to know that their partner is happy and that their partner expresses this happiness through visible affection. Realizing each other's goals is often the main concern of the protagonists and they will spare no effort to help their partner live that dream. However, if they are not careful, the protagonists 'pursuit of their partners' satisfaction can lead them to neglect their own needs, and it is important that they remember to express those needs occasionally, especially at an early stage.

You cannot escape your responsibilities of tomorrow by ignoring them today

The propensity of the protagonists to avoid any kind of conflict, and sometimes even to sacrifice their own principles for the sake of harmony, can lead to long-term problems if these efforts never fully resolve the underlying issues that obscure them. On the other hand, people with the protagonist personality type can sometimes be too preventive in resolving their conflicts and demand criticism and suggestions in a way that gives the impression of helplessness or insecurity. Protagonists invest their emotions fully in their relationships and are sometimes so anxious to please that it actually undermines the relationship - this can lead to upset and even breakdown of the relationship. When this happens, protagonists feel a strong sense of guilt and betrayal as they see all of their efforts slip away.

However, when potential partners appreciate these qualities and are intent on looking after the needs of their protagonist partners, they will have long, happy, and passionate relationships. Protagonists are known to be reliable lovers who are more interested in routine and stability than spontaneity in their sex life, but who are always dedicated to the selfless satisfaction of their partners. Ultimately, the protagonist personality type believes that the only real happiness is mutual happiness, and that is the stuff that successful relationships are made of.